A Love Triangle

While the typhoon wind was raging last Saturday, I was re-reading Hagar – one of the most dramatic stories in the hagar1 hagar book of Genesis, and one that’s truly universal in its portrayal of the complexity of human desires. Hagar was Abram’s Egyptian maidservant. When Abram’s wife Sarai in her advanced age could no longer bear a son for him, it was Sarai herself who told Abram to sleep with Hagar. Round as the Halloween moon, Hagar got pregnant as Abram’s wife. In a very fickle-minded manner, the news of Hagar’s pregnancy angered Sarai and soon despised and mistreated her. Hagar fled into the desert, found by the Lord’s angel, announcing to her a child she would name Ishmael will be born soon, telling her to go back to Sarai’s household and submit to her.

If blogging or facebook had been a fad then, Hagar could have handily hang out online, her FB wall streaming with the sense of betrayal and isolation that Sarai had caused. What could have been her blog titles, intentionally anonymous for the despicable thought that Sarai from the other end, could google her anytime and once found, would craft comments (also anonymously) to further degrade her? Some possible titles:

  • The Wife That Never Was
  • Desert Rodent
  • Hating S.
  • Point of No Return
  • Missing Abloy
  • Laylay Na, Sablay Pa

Haha – you can come up with your own… Our time, our age of information of course, is a point of no return, and is pointless to return, to the time when the world beyond our yards were largely unknown or unheard of. What’s known is known so that denying factual knowledge is like puking food forcibly. The point for this hypothetical set-up is to highlight differences of our time and Hagar’s: ours is a time of increasing speed and space to vent out our thoughts and emotions, a time of growing human solidarity with our personal malaise. Isang note lang sa FB ng sama ng loob at may makiki-simpatiya na kaagad. Hagar’s time must be doubly depressing for its snobbishly hard and isolating landscape. Ikaw kaya mapadpad sa disyerto bitbit ang mo ang yong love triangle drama? Desert life is survival at its extreme.

But hey – i need not be quick to judge desert time especially from the lens of our ‘information time’. One – i haven’t lived in a physical desert. Two – I’m not Hebrew for whom deserts are ambivalent places of struggle with the “demons” as well as transfiguring landscape of dialogues with God. And third – silence and solitude (space and intention to be alone with God) is not the staple habit of our tendentiously noisy ‘information time’. I can only approximate what the desert time was for Hagar in silence and solitude and less through our antsy information time. Every good thing has its own pathology they say. Parang siomai lang sa bagoong alamang pag too much daw.

On the contrary, what was good about the boring indifference of desert time that Hagar encountered was the gift of picking up “hints and guesses” from the Lord’s angel. Sinong gustong makausap ang anghel ni God, taas ang kamay? The problem is even the image of a conversation with an angel appears too mountainous to absorb for our ‘information time’ mindset, even laughable from our literal, scientific, and practical conditioning. But the greater point is in the silence and solitude of Hagar, painful as it was, anything can happen – even an angel’s appearance. Or a burning bush. Or being blessed with courage enough for Hagar to decide to go back to Sarai and face the love triangle drama head-on. Surely, more dramas await Hagar at Abe’s house. At wala pa ring broadband sa kanyang pagbalik kaya wala ring blogging at fezbuk hehe.

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30 thoughts on “A Love Triangle

  1. Natawa ako sa mga possible titles ng blog ni Hagar. haha🙂 I love your reading your blogs because you can always find a connection between spirituality and our mundane activities. I didn’t realize facebook can offer empathy as an advantage.🙂

  2. alam mo shame on me (ehem ehem) diko alam ang story ni hagar, pero since na mention mo, hahanapin ko talaga ang drama ng buhay nya…. wag mokong sermunan…. yap tama ka, hindi ako nagbabasa ng bible hahahaha patawad po mula sa itaas pero twing babasa ako ng bible ay dinadale na ako ng antok (lapastangan) at wala din akong bible sa bahay, pero bibili ako, yung new version nat madaling intindihin.thanx ulit

  3. hahahaha.kataw-anan jud ni igsoon. i came up with my some titles too when i was reading this:

    1. Papa Abi, bakit?
    2. Babalik ako with a kinda missile from Tehran

    but anyway, I really admire how keenly pick a scene in the Bible that speaks of silence. How inspiring it is to read your speculation on silence which is often missed out in a boisterous world we are living.🙂

  4. interesting read.

    ngayon kasi may 3 pa akong pending na babasahin e. kapag natapos ko na lahat isusunod ko iyan.

    natawa ako to compare it with FB, di ako makarelate din in a way kasi wala akong account dun pero it makes sense huh.

    i just want to point out something about sa desrt. iba nga talaga siguro ang pakiramdam ng mga hebrew or kahit sinong nakatira sa ganung lugar kasi kung titignan mo physically sabi nila ang desert daw ay parang mundo ng walang pag-asa kasi kahit saang tingin mo parang walang katapusan ang paglalakbay tapos mainit pa. siguro isa din yun sa mga factors why hindi din puedeng mag judge basta. basta feeling ko environment affects oneself. basta yun iyun.😀

    • ganun ba yun bok? e anu naman ang kinalaman nung mainit sa desyerto kay hagar ka kalab triangle ni sarai at kasosyo sa fafa nilang my pagka pabling? e sa sobrang init nga dapat kokonti talaga population, hirap yatang mag….. jak…..en….poy pag mainit hwew! pamaypay nga dyan ang init, katabi ko kasi tong taga disyerto…
      pero babasahin ko talaga istorya netong si hagar.

      • Wanggits na kasi si Sarai kaya kahit anong init, hindi tumalab ang binhi ni Abe. Go na – read mo na Hagar…Government noodles, don’t delay hahaha…

    • Malalim tong magmumuni-muni mo tungkol sa disyerto Dens, palibhasa, nakapaligid sa yo dyan. Tama ka – ang arid landscapes sa mga Hudyo ay napakahalagang bagay na humubog sa kanilang kaisipan at espiritwalidad…

    • bok, did you reading the dfish posting about the english has never been easy? i guess not, english is the one way another too easy to speack, by the way, im planning to make to my first book and showing there my consultancy about the english tutoring.
      taytol:
      SPEAK EASY ENGLISH

  5. marami akong di naintindihan sa theology class ko, you somehow enlighten me with this witty and funny post…. I like it….

    …… let me add that in our time if one would mention his conversation with an angel, he might just earn his spot in a mental institute….

  6. First of all dfish change of avatar. Anak ng tinapa, ang next ko pa naman na blog eh, about fish (sea bass). buhi sya nga isda, fresh tapos instruction paano kukunan ng hasang. note lang na not intended sa imo igsoong dfish. coincidence lang siguro.

    Second…dalom nga pamalandong ang “love triangle.” Na remind tuloy ako sa ten commandments na “thou shall not covet thy neighbors wives” matud pa intended daw to protect the “chosen few” kay daghan man asawa ning mga kaliwat ni Abraham to Moses to King David to King Solomon.

    Ah! Old Testament.

  7. ang alam ko kaya umalis si hagar dahil nagkaron na ng anak si abraham at sarah…..
    ayaw ni abraham ng complication so he decided that it’s better if aalis na lang si ismael at hagar…at according sa mga sabi-sabi, si ismael daw ang isa mga ancestors ng mga unamng yumakap sa relihiyong islam. kaya nga daw may link parin ang Christianity and Islam.

    natawa at nalungkot ako habang binabasa ang post mo, di ko kasi mapigilang isipin ang life ni hagar na napilitang makipagsapalaran sa desyerto…ang lakas ng faith nya….imagine wala kang alam sa mangyayari sayo at tanging pinanghahawakan mo lang ay yong paniniwalang may nakatakdang buhay na ibibigay sayo ang dyos..what a great faith.

  8. Hi seamea – salamat sa pagdaan at pag-iwan ng komento. Actually – dalawang beses umalis si Hagar sa pamamahay ni Abe – una, nung hindi pa nabuntis si Sarai, at ang pangalawa, nung ipinanganak na si Isaac na anak na mismo nina Sarah at Abraham. So dalawang beses napadpad sa disyerto si Hagar. Tama ka – malaki ang papel nina Abraham at Ishmael sa pananampalataya ng mga Muslim. Kahit na ang kwento nina Hagar at Ishmael nung pumalaot sila sa disyerto, yung paghahanap ng tubig, ay ni-re-replay ng mga Muslim sa tuwing nagha-Hajj sila sa Mecca.

    Medyo, napa-kontrabida ang dating ni Sarai sa post kong ito dahil may naiwan na maliit na detalye at baka ma-misinterpret ng iba ang istorya. Nung nabuntis si Hagar, nagsumbong si Sarai kay Abram na mula nung nabuntis si Hagar, kinamumuhian na raw sya nito. Binasa ko uli ang konteksto – Sarai was powerful enough to evict Hagar from their household, gaya nung ginawa nyang pagpapatalsik kay Hagar ng pangalawang beses. Ang kabuoang konteksto ay kay Sarah nakasalalay ang promise ni God kay Abraham kaya nagiging pulubi at biktima ang role ni Hagar despite God promising something big for Ishmael.Hagar actually appeared as the risk for Abraham to remain faithful to God’s promise for a generation countless as the stars.Kaya yun – ang konteksto, mas favored si Sarah because of God’s promise for Abraham…

  9. Kapatid, reading the post, the comments and you comments on comments, need I say more?🙂

    Brilliant, beautiful mind…🙂 Sensya na ngayong lang uli nakadalaw…

    Possible blog title: Confessions of the Third Party…
    Hehehe… Hindi nga lang kwela… lol

  10. will all my endless whines at least I did not have her experience… BUT she was lucky not to be exposed in our noisy ‘information time’ because it may add up to her agony thinking, “Luoya jud nako oi… imbes mag FB or mag blog ko… naa ko dire sa disyerto gaantos..’

    ay wala lang, nakisawsaw lang para naay masawsaw hehe God bless!

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